Illinois parents are always trying to find ways to make divorce easier and less stressful on their children. As such, some are turning to a more unusual child custody arrangement. Have you heard of bird nesting? It may work in your circumstances, even if only temporarily.
First, it may help to know what “bird nesting” is about. The children remain in the family home while the parents take turns living with them. This requires the parent not living in the home to have somewhere to live, which is, obviously, one of the major concerns regarding this arrangement. Another concern is that you do not receive a clean break from your future former spouse. On the upside, the children’s lives remain relatively unaffected insofar as their schedules, access to friends and ability to remain in the same schools.
The children can adjust to the changes that are coming due to the divorce without also going through the upheaval of moving and/or going back and forth between the parents’ new homes. This could reduce their stress and provide them with the security they need during this time. Also, it could take some time to figure out what to do with the family home as well. Unless you have a buyer waiting in the wings or already know that a lender will approve refinancing the home immediately, the house is not going anywhere.
An Illinois court would more than likely not order this type of arrangement on its own, but you and the other parent can decide to use this type of child custody solution. Even if you only intend for it to be temporary, there could be advantages for everyone. However, before making any decisions, it might be a good idea to understand and explore all of the options for custody available to you.
Source: secondsaturdaywakecounty.com, “Co-Parenting: The Pros and Cons of Nesting Agreements“, Accessed on April 16, 2018