Have you and your spouse made the decision to pursue a divorce in Illinois but want to find the most amicable way to do so? Many people are aware that mediation can be used in divorce proceedings. However, these same people may not always know the true facts about mediation and what is can or cannot do. In order to get the most benefit out of mediation for your divorce, it is important to understand a few basic principles before you get started.
According to the Huffington Post, one mistake that some couples make is rushing into mediation discussions too soon. On the heels of choosing to end your marriage, emotions will no doubt be very high. This can stand in the way of the positive communications that are needed in order for mediation to be successful. Waiting a bit until things settle can set a better stage for your discussions.
It is equally important to know that you cannot rely on your mediator to make any decisions for you. That is not what mediation is about. That is what arbitration or trial is about. A mediator facilitates communications and the overall decision-making process but never makes the final calls. You can think of the mediator’s job as preventing the train from derailing so that the end goal can be achieved. That end goal is a divorce agreement that both parties can accept and live with.
This information is not intended to provide legal advice but general information about divorce mediation and how it may be best able to help couples in Illinois.