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Is there such a thing as being too old to divorce?

Many people who have been married for some time stay married not so much because they are satisfied with the relationship, but because they have a real concern over what else they might do. Some fear being alone, and don't know how or if they want to get back into the dating game. Some think they have become too old to take on such a big change. But people often wonder, "Am I too old to get divorced?" The answer is no.

Life Is Long, Yet Short

Other people who want a divorce don't care much about how old they are. They may have stayed together for the kids, and as soon as the youngest is settled in her dorm room they are headed straight to the divorce attorney's office to discuss what they need to do to get on with their lives as a single person. People are living longer these days, and want to be able to pursue happiness throughout all of their years.

When life is lived as well as possible it can be a long and full experience. If you live with someone who drains your energy, and doesn't share your passion for life it can actually deter from your ability to enjoy life. More often than not, it is women who decide to break free from a marriage for this reason.
Many men initiate a divorce in later years if their wife becomes seriously ill. Many are not equipped to take care of their spouse if they are disabled.

Finding The Right Emotional And Financial Support

Before getting a divorce it is important to prepare yourself emotionally and financially for the impact the end of the marriage will have on your life. You need to consider whether or not you have enough financial resources to support yourself. Ask yourself questions such as

  • Am I still able to work, or do I have a sufficient retirement income
  • Do I do well being home alone?
  • Am I prepared to downsize if necessary?
  • Will my extended family support my decision to get a divorce?
  • If I need alimony, is my spouse in a position to provide what I need?

Many of these questions are ones any would be divorcee might ask -- not just one who is getting a bit older. If the support is not there immediately, it doesn't mean you have to give up on the idea of divorce. Family law attorneys, counselors, therapists, and others can all work with you on helping you find the resources you need to redefine what your life might look like after a divorce. There are also many community activities that cater to older adults that will allow you to get out and cultivate new friendships and find people who will support your decisions even if people in your current circle -- including family members do not. In the end the right to pursue happiness does not have an expiration date, and at the end of the day it is up to you to decide what is right for you.

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